why it it when i log in if i have a pm the box pops up to tell me and i can cancel it or read it ,,,,but all the new posts get cleared so i cant keep track of the new posts ....any ideas

That sounds like a cookie issue...
i thought the same but i have 3 laptops total and a i pod ..and it has done it on all them ...but not all the time ....just hate when that happens cause i lose so much time searching each post to catch up on things

Are you using the same browser on all 3? Maybe try turning off the Pop Window notification from the Cpanel.