well met a girl this weekend and it went great friday we went and saw a movie(sucker punch it was a weird movie) then yesterday i picked her up and went cruising the strip in Janesville and this is where the s*** started well the girl im with just got out of a relationship with a guy that doesnt know how to keep his hands to himself and likes to abuse women well he and his crappy friends decided to keep bugging her and not leave her alone. and with the way i am i like to fix things not necessarily mechanical things cause thats fun to but peoples lives im sorta like a free therapist for the people i know and seeing her a sad and freaking out was driving me crazy cause i cant do anything to help her. well after they calmed down i was still freaking out and me being wuss and cant speak my feelings aloud got her to ignore me for some of the night because i couldnt tell her how i was feeling(awesome) so i finally had to text her when she was like 2 feet away. so now that we are on the way back to drop them off i was totally smart and asked are we boyfriend and girlfriend so i can get a grip on what the bounds of our relationship is so i know what is too far and i guess asking that was to far because unknown to me like always i made her upset. so texting her this morning i was just trying to know more about her and make her feel better( i was set up with the girl by my friend and his lady friend and i was told she was very pretty this is relavant to what i am going to say) so i was talking to her and said your friend didnt lie. she answers lie about what? i then answer how pretty you are and after that i get no response. yay! im so smart so after a while i text her and get a text saying she i sleeping and thats the last i have talked to her it is great.
isnt my life that really isnt too bad so lame im sorry to bring this sob story here but i needed to vent and would really like some feed back or something so i know im not too messed up
isnt my life that really isnt too bad so lame im sorry to bring this sob story here but i needed to vent and would really like some feed back or something so i know im not too messed up
SX_SLAYER
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my expert 16-year old advice is: give her some time and try to talk to her either in person or on the phone, dont text her, its not very personal. give it a week or two and try talking to her when you are BOTH ALONE.
lol thanks im 17 though almost 18 i know texting isnt that personal but its convient for me
bluewho
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You are makeing her feal like you have a right to pick her up on the rebound and realy you have no right to freak out about her past boy whatever he and his freinds were doing because you hardly no her!If you act like it is a big problem than it is.
Than you push yourself on her by asking if you are a couple now.After how many dates?
Than you said that you and and your freind have been talking behind her back even if it was a complement it should have been said when you first met her not after in a text.
Let it go if she likes you at all she will let you no you have a whole life infront of you dude slow the heck down!
Than you push yourself on her by asking if you are a couple now.After how many dates?
Than you said that you and and your freind have been talking behind her back even if it was a complement it should have been said when you first met her not after in a text.
Let it go if she likes you at all she will let you no you have a whole life infront of you dude slow the heck down!
there was no freaking out i was calm the whole time this was just all in my head on the outside i was calm and collected so relax man no need to yell
and yes going to fast is an issue for me that was exactly why i asked her that so i didnt get all gun ho and assume we were together because i have done that too which is worse but even trying to prevent that i caused it anyway and why are you so mean i mean really im a teenager leave me alone
and yes going to fast is an issue for me that was exactly why i asked her that so i didnt get all gun ho and assume we were together because i have done that too which is worse but even trying to prevent that i caused it anyway and why are you so mean i mean really im a teenager leave me alone
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bluewho
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truth hurts?you asked ......and said you were freaking out.You want suger talk to your momy.
Devilin AblueDress!
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Well all I can add is If you manage to figure women out......let me know. I am 36 and cant say that I have them figured out myself. I have a good working knowledge, but in no way have I figured them out!
well i guess i should have stated in my head i mean none of you were there so yea i can see that
Rember this forever...... GIRLS LIKE FLOWERS WHEN GUYS SCRREW UP.... Tell her personally that you are sorry and screwed up, ask her, can she forgive you. That may at least get you back in the game, and like others said give her space when she wants to talk she'll call or text you. Thegame you are playing is like fishing...bluewho said:
Devilin AblueDress! said:
i would like that if i could and sorry for the double post
Sxr700Bandit said:
i wish i could she wont even talk to me anymore so im kinda stuck its awesome and yea talkin to her friend trying to get a grip of things
When did all this go down? Give it time to cool, as they say time heals all wounds. Take a deep breath and relax it'll work out one way or the other.
bluewho said:
Agreed...According to your original post, you've known her for 3 days. You are pushing waaay to fast. Just hang out with her. Don't try and be her savior. Just let her talk and you listen. She will ask when she wants an opinion.
I fear it may be to late though.
sleddineinar
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Devilin AblueDress! said:
AMEN Brother!! I'm 45 and married and still can't figure them out. I'm in the doghouse half the time and can't figure out why!! And yes, dating is like fishing... it takes patience and there are lots of other fish in the sea.
meat12
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Like bandit said, flowers or something you may know she really likes, along with a simple apology preferably in person. Then you give her space, if there is another chance she will let you know. But being a bit to quick on the draw is what got you here in the first place, so you are gonna have to wait this one out. If she gives you another shot, gear down and just enjoy your friendship and the relationship will naturally flow, dont rush it. If after what you feel is adaquate time has passed or she lets you know she is out, then move on. Lots of fish man. I know that sounds shallow and easy to say because you are the one with feelings for this particular girl, but trust the wise men on here. We have been there. Dont get all hung up on women, have fun and dont let em bring you down. Seriously dont sweat em, enjoy your youth.
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tippmannator
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Devilin AblueDress! said:
X2!!! so true! im 25 and married for 5 years now and i spend more time trying to figure out what "i did wronge" then anything else! lol
cant live with em, and its illigal to kill em
well i know what i did wrong so thats something now i just need to give her space
sxviper65
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gutteer said:
Exactly what you should do. Dont send her a bunch a texts and call her just let it be right now and see if she trys to talk to you if nothing happens just walk away from it then your 17 years old you dont want a gf anyways. There a waste of time and money cause more than likely your not going to marry somebody you dated in high school it does happen but not very often.
We have all been there and have all learned the hard way. You can't make or entice anyone to care about you but you sure can chase them away!
Relationships all have to be allowed to flow naturally so don't over complicate them...just like waves hitting the beach, wait for them to come and if they don't you have to move on.
Relationships all have to be allowed to flow naturally so don't over complicate them...just like waves hitting the beach, wait for them to come and if they don't you have to move on.